Celebrating the life of Theodora Elkinton Waring, my Granny.

Granny passed away this fall, in the comfort of her daughter’s loving care. Although in the end she didn’t recognize Abby, and was confused anew every day by the virus and pandemic conditions, she died peacefully, and had a very good life. We celebrated her, like we do everything this year, over Zoom. More than 100 people and families showed up.

A zoom memorial for Granny was not what we had ever imagined, and would have seemed like a loss, but it was just what we all needed, and it was delightful to see so many Waring relatives who I get to see so rarely, and who are such lovely people.

The ceremony was well prepared and carefully organized by Sarah and Jonathan. The children (Topher, Kitty, Nat, Abby, Lydia) all spoke, as did the grandchildren, each for a single minute. Here is what I read.

Granny was a magical thinker.

She loved telling stories about history.
Quaker history and family history being the best two types. Dearie.
She would liberally add details of which she could never have known.
Precisely what the wife of a general had said
Where she had once stood,
or just how she felt.
It was a part of the story because
the story was better that way.
Because she wanted it to be true.
And so, for her, it was.

I saw this in our conversations about Tom, in the years after his death.
She would imagine forgiving Tom.
Imagine Tom coming back to her.
Imagine reclaiming Tom.
Tom was a part of her story because
Her story was better that way.
Because she wanted it to be true.
And so, for her, it was.

Thank thee, Granny. We love thee. And thee will stay with us.

4 thoughts on “Celebrating the life of Theodora Elkinton Waring, my Granny.

  1. Tim Quirk January 11, 2021 / 11:57 pm

    What a beautiful tribute to your Grandmother, Tim. Well done.


  2. Marsha Eaton January 12, 2021 / 3:00 pm

    Oh, Tim, your tribute was just perfect! I love you and know how big a part of all of your lives she was! She was so proud of her kids and grands! Thanks you for sharing your words!


  3. Ethan January 13, 2021 / 12:38 pm

    What a beautiful tribute—I’m so glad you could all gather to celebrate her. Sending love, friend.


  4. Sarah Waring January 13, 2021 / 3:58 pm

    nice! Nat didn’t end up speaking, but you know – that’s just the little sister way of pointing out what you said that was wrong. 😉


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